Fashion, Depression & Motherhood

Well, once again, life happened & the blog took a backseat.  It’s been one hell of a busy summer full of camping, swimming, traveling etc. etc. When I’ve managed to get some “me” time I haven’t felt fully motivated to write anything besides a quick Instagram post.  However, as I sit here on this beautiful Sunday morning with the windows open & coffee in hand I find myself inspired to write something. 

On one of my recent Instagram posts I reintroduced myself and why I started blogging.  As much as I tend to overshare with my friends & family, I am not always as open about my life on social media, besides what I’m wearing/eating.  Today I am taking a little bit of a risk & opening up about myself….

My name is Laura & I live in Wexford, PA with my husband & little man, hence the name The Wexford Housewife.  I recently turned 33 & although my 30’s scared me when I was younger, I am embracing the hell out of them now!  With age comes experience and I’ve learned to keep close the ones you love & rid life of toxicity including people, habits and feelings.

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I went to school for Fashion which gave me the opportunity to live in LA & NYC but in the end I put down my roots in Pittsburgh which is where I met my husband.  Long story short, we met on Match.com, got married 2 years later & now have an energetic, full of life 4 year old boy named Stone.

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After having our son I had post partum depression which I didn’t acknowledge until a year later.  Looking back it was one of the hardest things I have ever experienced.  I was overwhelmed with my new role as a mother & didn’t talk about it in fear of being viewed as a failure.  Excuse my language, but motherhood is fucking hard!  The anxiety I felt put pressure on my marriage, causing my husband & I to constantly argue and be at odds.  He tried to understand what I was going through, but I couldn’t help but feel alone, unappreciated, and angry.  I was mad at myself for leaving my full-time job & becoming a stay at home mom, I was mad at my husband for, well everything, I was made at my son for not sleeping or nursing…. I was just mad.  I finally met with my doctor and was put on medication which to be honest was a godsend.  I had experienced depression & anxiety previously but nothing like this.  I know medication isn’t for everyone but it works for me.  I finally felt like I could breath again, that a dark cloud was lifted & I could finally be me.

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Being a SAHM is one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever had.  Once I finally got the hang of it, a year later lol, I needed something to regain my identity & call my own which is why I started The Wexford Housewife.  Throughout the years I have found other creative outlets like being a  member of Style Collective & GrlPwrPgh, I am also a Senior Stylist for Stitch Fix & will soon be helping my husband with his landscaping business.  They say idle hands are the devils playground, and I’ve learned the hard way I need to stay busy or my mind runs wild.

Through all of this madness I have learned that it’s okay to ask for help.  It’s okay to talk about things that aren’t normally discussed.  It’s okay to open up about feelings of failure, depression & anxiety.  At 33, I finally feel like I know who I am and what I want from life.  I feel healthy & happy.  I am so blessed to have such a supportive husband, a strong-willed little man, family that loves me continuously regardless of my mood, and a tribe of friends that are ride or die!

If you’ve made it through this entire post, I thank you!  If anything, I hope that me opening up helps someone else reading this and to know that you are not alone.

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My 5 Décor Resolutions

It’s almost February, hopefully your resolutions are still holding strong!  This year instead of making personal resolutions I wanted to focus on our home, so when Wayfair reached out & asked if I would share my top 5 ways to update your home in 2018 I was ecstatic!  We moved into our house right after our son turned 1, which will make it 3 years this summer.  I loved turning this house into our home, but unfortunately I haven’t done much since we moved in.  It’s time for a refresh, ergo my 5 resolutions…

  • Declutter & minimalize

It’s easier said than done, but I need to periodically organize our home room by room.  This isn’t something I will do daily, but as we transition from season to season I need to decide on which items around the house need to be kept & stored, donated or thrown away.  Do we really need 7 blankets tossed behind the living room chair, or the numerous containers of Play-Doh that are starting to dry out?  That stack of outdated coupons can be recycled, but what about all of our phone chargers or my collection of food & fashion magazines?

For those items that never seem to have a place, I’ve opted for bins & baskets to keep them organized.  Large neutral baskets like the Sea Grass Basket pictured below from Wayfair.com are great for storing blankets & throw pillows, while smaller basket sets are perfect for organizing magazines & mail in the living room and toiletries in the bathroom.  Using baskets likes these is an efficient way to store items without ruining the esthetic of your home.

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  • Toys – out of sight, out of mind

The older my son gets, the more “stuff” we seem to accumulate.  Not only does he love trucks, Transformers, and Nerf guns but he’s also getting into board games and arts & crafts.  I love that he uses his imagination to play & color, but I am running out of space to store everything.  This year, rather than have his board games stacked in the corner I have decided to house them in a storage ottoman.  Storage ottomans are great for creating extra seating while also minimalizing clutter around house.  I also recently found this fantastic art table by Step2 on Wayfair that I’m hoping will be my saving grace for all things arts & crafts.  If you have any other clever suggestions for storing toys please feel free to share!

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  • Time to up my style game

As a senior stylist for Stitch Fix and a part-time blogger, I love sharing daily outfit inspiration and styling tips.  As of late, my husband & selfie-stick have been my go-to photographers.  I need to up my style game this year & put together a creative space of my own to gather my thoughts & take pictures.  In order to do this, I need a fantastic full length mirror like the one pictured below from Wayfair, as well as some chic lighting, I’m thinking maybe a mini chandelier, and a clothing rack to showcase OOTD selections.  I’d also love to add a patterned accent chair where I can sit & blog or style my clients.  Be sure to visit Wayfair’s accent chair section to see their wide variety of options.

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  • Fresh Flowers

This year, I am making an effort to have fresh flowers in our home year round.  I love having fresh flowers in every room, but I find myself only do so during the warmer months.  Not only do fresh flowers brighten a room but according to an article in The Huffington Post research shows that fresh flowers & plants can actually benefit your mental health.  Bold vibrant florals will bring energy to a room while brighter, less saturated flowers and plants will create a calming, relaxed effect.

You can’t show off fresh flowers without a beautiful vase!  I love being able to see the whole flower from stem to petal so I typically opt for a glass vase like this one pictured below.  These Latrece Glass Bottle Vases from Wayfair.com are vintage-inspired & are currently priced at only $33.99.

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  • Bathroom remodel without the construction

When we moved into our house a few years ago we knew that we wanted to remodel our master bath.  Unfortunately, we haven’t had the time nor the funds to tackle it yet, so in the meantime I am giving our bathroom a little face lift.  I am going to bring in pops of color & texture with a new shower curtain and thick, plush bath linens like the ones pictured below from Wayfair.  I am also going to incorporate cheeky, bath-influenced décor, better eco-friendly lighting and a new trash can & toothbrush holder in clean, white porcelain. Banda+3+Shower+Curtain

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I really hope that this post has inspired you to make some changes/resolutions of your own.  When in doubt, feel free to browse ideas by room on Wayfair.com.

As always – comfortable & effortless housewife style xoxx

Boys will be boys

We’ve all heard it before, “boys will be boys”.  Until I had a son, I thought this saying was just an excuse for bad behavior.  However, I have found over the past two years that boys truly are made of snaps and snails and puppy dog tails.

I am sure that there are parents out there that will disagree with this but through my experience boys and girls are inherently different.  What makes them tick is different.  It’s neither good nor bad, just different.  Being in MOMS Club, I have had the chance to observe the way the kids interact and play with one another.  Though they all get along & all have their moments, it’s mostly the little boys who are impatient for lines, would rather explore than sit & listen to a story, are climbing up the slide and are yelling, chasing and playing tag.

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My son has such a big imagination!  Whether he’s a loud, stomping dinosaur or a fast, flying plane I often find myself apologizing for the way he plays.  Which is ridiculous!  The other day I read an article on Scary Mommy titled A Plea for Boyhood and Rough Play.  I loved reading this article!  It basically states that boys need to be boys & that by saying “things like “Hands off!” and “Quiet down!” to our boys, we are asking them to suppress something innate inside of them”.

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It’s time to let my son be himself & play like a boy should.  No more stressing out if he’s playing too loudly in the library or running too fast at the park or exploring underneath the dinner table when we go out to eat.  After all, it’s through his energetic, creative & rowdy play that he will learn & grow.